Well. I am still struggling to make time for myself. (So if any wise reader has tips please share… I know some women make it happen.)
For example: I had a three-day weekend & what did I do? I don’t even know… Had fun at the at the art museum, did the groceries, cooked delicious soup for my cousin, broke bread with said dear cousin, watched some Mad Men with MFA Dad, baked some (which might have counted as ‘me’ time but for the fact that our oven broke & I was baking at my brother’s house while my son refused to nap… A nice visit but not ‘me’ time).
What didn’t I do? Ha! Shower (not once… Gross but the truth), sleep well, read for pleasure, read for work, exercise, meditate, BREATHE.
And I got very, very, frustrated with T. So on top of it all I didn’t even feel like a good parent by the end of the weekend.
So here it is Monday morning… I’m on the train & already feeling stressed & hectic. Is this just life as a working mother or is there a better way?
ETA: By the end of the week, this post strikes me as a bit whiny… Which is ok but not necessarily what I intended. I’m not really interested in ‘me’ time for its own sake (though who doesn’t like some time to herself without being accountable to anyone else). I think it’s important that we be able to prioritize leisure pursuits because they make us more productive worker bees & better parents & partners & family members & friends. When I’m burnt out I’ve got nothing to give to anyone. I think that some people are better than others at carving out time for themselves (&, yes, I think men are often better at this than women). I’m not good at it & will just keep on forging ahead, zombie-fied.