I think I am like most American adults: a little self-centered & often hoping things will go my way. So when my son begins to pretend that my hair clip is a crane & my drawer in the bathroom is a worksite that needs to be cleared my knee-jerk reaction is annoyance as I try to reach for my make-up brush during the morning dash out the door.
Then I stop myself.
We’re going to be apart for most of the day. He wants to be near me. Nothing in there is all that breakable. What’s a little mess?
“Will you clean it up?” “Yes.”
I intervened when the mess started looking more like a disaster, but he easily accepted that little limitation. Clean-up ended up taking some convincing but he did it almost all by himself.
So, am I a parenting genius, solving would-be morning confrontations & figuring out what limits are reasonable in a flash (even after only one cup of coffee)?!
No. (I did, after all, forget to remove my sharp-pointed tweezers & scissors before giving him the green light…)
I’ve read a number of parenting books that I love & often turn to for advice. Dr. Sears & Alfie Kohn & Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (among others) have helped me to discover the parent I hope to be.
Noelle’s daily reminders help me to be that parent more often than not.
(Note: This post was totally unsolicited. I’ve actually never been in touch directly with Noelle before posting this, nor have I used his coaching services.)